Articles

Marriage General, Non-Orthodox

 

  • Briggs, David, "Five Ways Faith May Promote Healthier Marriages", reports findings on recent studies on how faith and healthy ways of relating in marriage are connected.
  • Firestone, Lisa, "How Mindfulness Can Save Your Relationship."  This brief article, though cloaked in the modern language of "mindfulness" and "meditation" and without mention of God, reveals some important truths about relationships, particularly with our spouse.
  • Regnerus, Mark, "The Good Enough Marriage," explores how we determine the ways in which we view our marriages and challenges the reader to consider the realities of married life and the consequences of divorce.

 

Marriage General, Orthodox

For Parish or Personal: Selected Marriage Resources PDF

Here you will find a selected marriage resource list for your own personal use or to pass on to your parishioners.  Each resource has been read and reviewed.  The books and articles come from a variety of perspectives and approaches.

Clergy Marriage, Non-Orthodox

  • This article reports the results of a study of how Protestant ministers view the health of their families: http://www.greymatterresearch.com/index_files/Pastor_Families.htm
  • An Insightful and Humorous Attempt to Describe the Vocation of Ministry!

    https://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=815124448524086&fref=nf

  • Edmundson, Ron, “Introverted Pastors:  Be Extroverted on Sunday.”  This article explores the very real but often overlooked challenge that pastors and their wives experience on a regular basis—being an introvert in a vocation that sometimes requires you exercise behaviors more akin to an extrovert.  Though addressing the pastor, the same principles can be applied to the wife, though to a lesser degree.  If either you or your spouse is an introvert, this article will provide you with some practical suggestions for appropriate self-care. 

  • Lanberg, Diane, “Is Marriage in Conflict With Your Ministry?”  In this excerpt from the book, Counsel for Pastors’ Wives, the author addresses the challenge of viewing marriage and ministry as competing with one another or as complimentary.  This is a good article for spouses to read together and discuss.  It begs the question:  In what ways do each of us experience ministry and marriage to be complimentary and in competition?

For the Priest

For the Presvytera, Orthodox

For the Presvytera, Non-Orthodox

  • Floyd, Ronnie, “A Pastor and His Wife."  This is a brief article written by a Baptist minister, which explores three main points for being a clergy couple:  being partners, living life together and being consistent.  It provides some good discussion points for clergy couples.
  • Litton, Kathy Ferguson, “Seven Inescapable Choices Pastors Wives Face.”  This is an excellent article that puts into perspective the reality that we are not victims of our circumstances.  Rather, we choose, with God’s grace, the outlook and perspective of our lives. 

  • McDaniel, Lori, "The Best Pastor's Wife Advice I Ever Received," This is a brief article written by the wife of a minister.  In this article, she writes,"Sometimes you need to be like rubber and sometimes you need to be a sponge."  She then goes on to briefly elaborate this principle, which she has come to deeply appreciate.
  • McKeever, Joe, "What My Wife Would Tell Pastors' Wives" - This is a precious article written by a pastor a few days before his wife's funeral.  Though not from an Orthodox perspective, it contains many truths that we will all appreciate.  Some of the points are great for discussion with our husbands. 
  • Oden, Marilyn Brown, "Stress and Purpose:  Clergy Spouses Today."  This article, which appeared in The Christian Century, is written by the wife of a Methodist minister.  It provides insights on the primary challenges clergy wives encounter.
  • Peterson, Eugene, "The Unbusy Pastor" [and Presvytera, my addition] by  In this thought-provoking article, the author makes a convincing argument against the "idol" of busyness in ministry. The author, Eugene Peterson, is a Presbyterian minister who has authored many books.
  • Stolass, Christina, "Nine Secrets Your Pastor's Wife Wishes you Knew," lists several common realities of the clergy wife/couple/family, many of which all presvyteres can relate to.
  • VanDeKuyt, Miranda, "Burnout Prevention:  Tips for Pastors' Wives."   In this brief but important article, the author presents the basics of "burnout" and provides strategies and resources for navigating times of burnout in our lives.  Though written for pastors' wives, the same principles can be applied to our husbands, and the information provided in the article can help us, as the wives of priests, to be on the lookout for signs of burnout in both ourselves and our husbands.

Clergy Family

Self Care Tips for the Clergy Family

  • “Self Care Tips for the Clergy Family,” written by a Protestant minister, succinctly describes some of the realities of clergy family life in America and some pointers for managing the common stressors of clergy families.  It is worth the read and can be found at: http://desperatepreacher.com/pastorcare/intro_clergyfamily.htm

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